Monday, May 30, 2011

Hang On to the Moments

I realize today is Memorial Day and it is a day set aside for honoring our military men and women and I am thankful for the the thoughtfulness of this country. It is particularly important for the families of those serving this country to realize their national sacrifice is recognized and appreciated.

At the same time, I believe it is a day to stop and remember period. Reflection is a good thing particularly when you are thinking thankfully about all of those people who have made sacrifices in their lives for you. Today, I am thankful for Bonnie and Fred Tappe. My parents supported everything I ever tried to do. They were always in the stands cheering. I am thankful for Bill Boyar. I can still see him sitting in the stands, by himself, watching me play tennis on a day when it was sleeting, windy, and cold. He was always there for me and I miss him.

I am thankful for all of the teachers and coaches who sacrificed so much for me. Cal Hopkins was there early in the morning and late at night working on my tennis game. Many opportunities have come my way in life because of his contribution. Charles Williams explained God's love for my life. He was also there to stand with us on our wedding day.

I am grateful for friends who have loved and supported me when it wasn't easy. I am thankful for children who have loved me when it really wasn't easy. I am thankful to friends who are always there with an encouraging word of support and counsel. I am mindful for two brothers who love me and who are always there whenever I need them. Now, I have three grandchildren who provide their own brand of support and I have another one who will be here in just a few day. I can't wait to meet her.

I remember so many wonderful people. I remember the sacrifices they have made. I particularly remember a strawberry blonde beauty I met when I was sixteen. Actually, I first met her in the third grade. We have now spent over forty years of our lives loving each other. She has sacrificed her life for me. I look forward to spending forever with her.

So, today is Memorial Day. What are you remembering? Who are you remembering? Don't let the moments slip away. Hang on to them. They will be gone before you know it. Hang on to them as long as you can. Do well, my friends.

Welcome to Tappe Talk, a Purposed Connection podcast by The Tappe Group. Here is the truth. If you continue to do what you have always done while the context you're faceing sis significantly changing and expect to somehow get the same result, now that really is insanity.

  1. Changed context requires and adjusted response.
  2. Changes in others requires recognized adjustment.
  3. Changes in information requires informed adjustment.
  4. Changes in economy requires a wise an inclusive response.

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Monday, May 23, 2011

Who Said?

Welcome to Tappe Talk, a Purposed Connection podcast by The Tappe Group. This week Allen's blog will be a reflection upon "positive" psychology through the eyes and mind of Martin Selgman and his new book, flourish. This week he shares with you some insights he has experienced this week.




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Sunday, May 8, 2011

A Day of Honor

Welcome to Tappe Talk, a Purposed Connection podcast by The Tappe Group. Today is Mother's Day. Today as a nation, we pause to recognize and celebrate our mothers. This week Allen spends time recognizing lessons to be learned from this day with regard to giving honor to whom honor is due.

  • Remember
  • Recognize
  • Rehearse
  • Relate
  • Resist
  • Return



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Wednesday, May 4, 2011

Why Is It So Hard To Be Where You Are?

Staying present is not an easy thing to do. Staying in the moment is even harder. I think it is important to know yourself well enough to understand the challenge. Relationships depend upon it. Maximizing the opportunities of life require it. Unfortunately, it is not natural for you to pay attention. It is something you have to do on purpose. If you don't approach life with intention it will not happen. You have too many things working against it. Think about it.

To begin with, your mind is constantly working. Some of us are more cognitively active than others, but physically speaking your mind can out race your capacity for paying attention. Some suggest your mind has the capacity for listening at the rate of up to 750 words per minute while as a human being you only have the capacity for listening up to about 250 words per minute. There is obviously a lot of room for mental and emotional wandering.

Secondly, life is happening. The world is swirling around you, and it is demanding your attention. Even when you are alone, you are not without distraction. Staying focused upon one thought or upon one thing is more than problematic. Life will cry out for your attention.

So, what is the answer? To begin with, it important for you to recognize the problem. Then, you have to practice the discipline. Meditation is a discipline. It is something you have to learn. Begin by purposing a few seconds at a time. Get intentionally focused. Do it outside of your work life. Some of us are trained for professional focus, but we cannot translate it into our personal lives. Begin when it doesn't really seem to matter.

Becoming more focused in life, can change your life. It might even save your life. Begin with driving time. Pay attention. Quit texting. Quit talking. Focus upon what your are doing. Focus upon who and where you are. Translate it into your relationships in life. Listen actively. You can do it. So can I. Do well, my friends.


Sunday, May 1, 2011

How Ready are You?

Welcome to Tappe Talk, a Purposed Connection podcast by The Tappe Group. Take a deep breath, and ask yourself this question, "Are you ready to live this day?" Here are a few thoughts for this week:
  • Be aware
  • Be alert
  • Be active
  • Be amazed
  • Be approachable



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